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2/1/2019 11:57:00 AM
Leading With Love

Marty Reep, Author
Speaker, Forward-Thinker

Leading with love is an age-old concept that still works, today.  Love uses trust, forgiveness, and forbearance to successfully operate.  When you hear the word “love”, all sorts of ideas and images come to mind.  The kind of love I’m talking about is a “phileo” or brotherly love.  It’s the love that transcends troublesome issues and continues to love unconditionally. 

If you can truly show others that you love them unconditionally, you will not only have a happier, more peaceful life – you’ll have the potential to influence thousands of people around the world while you’re living and long after you’re gone.  Your positive impact will be indelibly drawn on the hearts and minds of those who sense your deep care. 

Is it easy?  Of course not!  Worth it?  Yes.  

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When people know that you love them, they will go out their way to make sure that they don’t do anything to break that bond.  But, if someone you love does something you don’t like, that doesn’t mean you stop loving them.  If that were the case, then all of us would be in a heap of trouble.  …just think back how many times you’ve let somebody down or done something to disappoint them.  The road of love goes both ways. 

Let’s face it – at some point, the people you love unconditionally are going to do something that hurts you.  And when that happens, how you respond is key.  How you respond to the situation or act will show whether or not you really do love that person “without condition”.  If you do it successfully, then your relationship will be strengthened.  Sure, you may have hesitations in the future, but restoration can occur much easier if the other person knows you still love them.  Because, with that love comes a bridge that can overcome adversity.

This type of leadership and living is not for the weak-kneed or weak-stomached person.  But, I’ve found that it’s easier than the alternative of always giving up and shutting people out, forever.  Life is just not much fun that way.  That’s why I chose the route of loving people.  It was also easier to do once I realized that other people had been extending that same kind of love to me throughout my whole life.  All I had to do was to remember what I knew as a kid and let that natural desire to love others shine through, again. 

If you’re a “thinker”, sometimes you have to set the continuous mental processing aside and connect with people around you in down-to-earth ways.  There are lots of different ways to inspire or motivate. 

While motivator Tony Robbins’s style is in one part of the spectrum, missionary Mother Teresa’s was in another.  Still, both figured out how to best relate to their audiences, peers, and followers.  I encourage you to risk showing people you love them, if it’s for good reasons, because they will pick up on your worthwhile intentions.  Your first go at it may be great…or it may sink like a brick…but either way, they’ll know you care.

The interesting thing is that the people you love and show love for don’t have to love you back.  Sure, it would make things easier if they did, but as long as you’re loving them and showing it through the kindness of your actions, words, and attitude, that’s what matters.  The rest will work itself out in time. 

Loving people, no matter what, is one of the most powerful ways to bring about lasting changes. 

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