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7/17/2020 3:18:00 PM
Guest Column
Treating People With Kindness

Marty Reep, Author
Speaker, Forward-Thinker

I could give you all sorts of data points from surveys and research that scientists and academia have collected and filtered throughout the years, but I won’t. Instead, I appeal to your common sense, your intelligence, and your gut that tells you in that small, still voice that treating people with kindness is the right thing to do.

You may be thinking, “Why are we even having this conversation?” Well, it seems that we need an occasional reminder that being nice to people is a good thing – and that people desperately need to know that others love them. Recently, a colleague told me some of the things that he’d been going through. I asked what helped him make it through, and he said that his frustration levels lowered whenever people were nice to him. As a result, he said he decided to be more conscientious about doing the same to other people.

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Guess what? When he was consistent in being nice to other people, his own stress levels went down. Some people may say that’s a coincidence. Others of us see it as a direct correlation to the change of heart, change of attitude, or change of perspective. Either way, things changed for the better – not only in his life, but in the lives of the people he touched in the process. Fascinating.

One of the realities of language and ideas is that it takes the same amount of energy and the same number of words to say something kind to another human being, as it does to say something mean. However, the results and reactions can be vastly different, depending on which words we utter.

In thinking back over the times that I’ve said something mean – after the words came out of my mouth, I often realized that my anger or frustration at that precise moment was actually caused by something else and not by the person I was talking with. Meaning, what they said or did right then really wasn’t what I was mad about. My emotional response was, instead, tied to something else entirely.

Yet, in that moment, my rash comments did not build up the other person – and, it wasn’t even their fault. So, when that happens, I apologize, think about what really is bothering me, and then go address that issue. When resolution finally comes for the root cause, then my ability to treat others with kindness turns on, again. They smile; I smile; and we are both at peace in the world.

Lastly, when we treat people with kindness, it grows. They receive that kindness and, in turn, they pass it on to people they come in contact with.

At the end of the day, the kindness we share with other people will multiply in positive ways and will help make the world a better place to call “Home”.

Have a great week!

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