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10/28/2017 12:11:00 AM
The Win-Win Mentality

Dr. Vince Hefner, Pastor
First Baptist Church, Cherryville, NC

I have always believed in the, “Win-Win,” situation. The idea of someone having to be a loser in a discussion or a decision has never appealed to me. Even as a child, I wanted to please everybody. Of course, the, “Win, Win,” means that I don’t have to experience the feeling of losing!

When I was about twelve years old I had a crush on a girl in my community. Strangely enough she did not care for me at all, I mean at all! To make matters worse, her mother and my mother were friends. It was bad enough to be scorned by the one you loved, but when your mom was aware of it, it made matters worse for me. My mom didn’t really have any sympathy for my situation; she felt I was too young to be interested in girls.

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However, the little girl’s mother was very kind to me and would make her daughter speak to me when our families came together for a visit. I was about to give up on winning her heart when her mother asked me if I would do something for her daughter. It was in the fall of the year and we all participated in the local football league. Every year little girls would run for Homecoming Queen for their perspective age groups. The rules were simple; the one who raised the most money won! The money was used to buy equipment for the football teams for the next year. It was all legal, with the girl who raised the most money winning the crown. The mother of the little girl asked me if I would sell one-dollar chances on a homemade cake with the proceeds going to help the little girl become queen. I quickly agreed to be part of making my would-be sweetheart a queen!

On a Saturday morning, the mother and daughter came to my house and brought blank pieces of white paper, that were all cut alike with a pen to write down the names of all the people that would soon buy a chance for the cake. As they wished me good luck and drove away from my house I felt that I had the privilege of helping my soon to be girlfriend become homecoming queen, providing I could sale enough tickets.

However, before I started I noticed something different about the blank pieces of paper. While most were thin, a couple were real thick to the touch, but they all looked alike. I had a brainstorm. If I bought a ticket with the thick paper and was able to choose the winner at the end of the day, I could win the cake, help my girl become homecoming queen, impress her mother, and let the people who also paid for a ticket to share in the good fortune of helping someone become a queen. It was a win-win-win situation.

That morning I covered my community and sold about twenty-five dollars worth of chances. That afternoon when the mother and daughter returned to tally the results (money) I asked if I could pick the winning ticket from the shoebox holding them. The mother thought about it for a moment then she agreed. With all the innocence I could muster with my big blue eyes, I reached in the shoebox, felt for my ticket and presented it to her to call out the winner, “Vince Hefner.”

She told me that I needed to pick another card since it wasn’t fair that I had sold the tickets and people would get suspicious. I agreed. I can’t believe that she thought I had only bought one ticket! I might have been a number of bad things when I was a kid, but nobody could call me cheap! When I drew out my name the second time she knew something was up, but she was in a hurry to get home and I wanted to sample my cake. The little girl did not become queen, I did not win her heart and the cake was a little dry for me.

Galatians 6:7 says, “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” My goal was to get what I wanted, and if I had to bend the rules, no problem. However, what you want in life may not be what God wants for you and doing something wrong to get what you want never makes it right.

Remember, don’t give in to sin. Think about it!

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